How are we doing?

"How are we doing?" This is the question or the greeting sentence Fr Omaris uses to start his Sunday homily at St Francis of Assisi, Barbados. The congregation appreciate it because it shows a proximity of heart and feelings, a whole of togetherness and  tight binding between the pastor and his christians. But there is more than just this yo say about the responses. 

"Good", "well" or "I am fine". I personally respond "surviving' and people are surprised, try to smile or just continue the conversation. And this is not usually the purpose of the question. All is protocol sofar. But there are many other surprising responses to the same question? 

"I can't complain", older or mature people say. Meaning I am good and it can't be any better. I take it as it comes. Senior people often add that "I wish it could be better".  Others invoke Gold's blessings and graces. "I am blessed by the grace of God". The most interesting I ever heard was from a colleague on campus who would great his friend by saying: 'Mussels" expecting the other to say the same word. The response depends on the place, the quality of relationship between the individuals, the level of speech (private, official, popular or even vulgar). The response comes out according to a certain protocol or social habit. 

"Are you still alive?", and the spontaneous response is: "Did you send somebody to kill me?". This agressive statement is sign of a very closed acquaintance. Violent words, but yet pleasant=and friendly. Please pay attention to the responses raised by the simple question "How are you" and you will be surprised.